The Aftermath of a Divorce

Nothing is more compellingly hard to accept than that of an ending to a seemingly blissful union between two people that have sworn to be together for the rest of their lives as they decide to go on their separate ways. It is somewhat of a surreal mix of emotions of anxiety and anticipated longing to be free from each others covenant bow and at the same time be mindful of their obligations for what they will be leaving behind from their former married life. Sometimes it is much more easier for two individuals to just simply overlook such individual short comings just simply for the sake of genuinely loving each other.

Though love should be accepting each others imperfections in all aspects of the word marriage, there are those who fall short from the actual idealism's of the married life. This usually happens further down the road when your ideals slowly turn in to a reason to be stressful in a daily basis. Most relationships are somewhat like a love story conceived to convince you that a relationship is worth a trip down the aisle specially when you see that person as an ideal mate for life that will satisfy all aspects of your self esteem.

The most hardest part in the process of divorce is getting back your life, though this is not simply true. The truth is that in reality you have lost part of your lifetime in a failed marriage. This brings a multitude of issues specially when trying to keep your head up with a smile as you pick up the pieces of your former life. Most people would deal with this head on by trying to enjoy their newly recovered humanity and divulge themselves with the aesthetics of life and the newly found vibrancy that life has to offer.

Yes, there would be times that they will fall on a melancholic moment as it can not be avoided even feeling sorry for themselves sometimes questioning themselves if it was their fault on who's to blame. It does take them sometime to recover from this dreary phase but they do come out well in the end and live normal lives in the end. Giving yourself a reason to enjoy life after a chaotic fall from marriage seems to be a reasonable way of coping if not recover your self esteem back to life. Indulging in social matters and activities can improve a persons outlook on life.

People would like to feel good about themselves after such bouts with divorce, mostly finding ways to improve themselves aesthetically and emotionally. Looking and feeling good about yourself outside can help in the healing process and improve overall social perception from other people who have known what you have gone through. Seeing a big improvement in regards to personal image after a divorce means that you fought a hard fight and emerged defiant and victorious, which will earn you their utter respect.

Any means of improving yourself is not just a way to recover from a bad marriage but also a defiant way to show an estranged spouse that you did not fall to any detrimental misgivings that would make you look like a social outcast lurking in the shadows of disparity. Many people have gone through these trying times and have come out with regret but in the same time wiser in regards to marriage. Moving on is the first hardest step to take and I'm sure that these people had found their individual happiness upon parting ways and have said their goodbyes tearfully as they finally walked away from each other...forever.

  

Alone: The Social Tragedy of Loneliness

Some people may find solitude a comforting state to spend their entire life, avoiding the unnecessary inconveniences that mingling with other individuals in a daily basis can be considered a nuisance. There are people who prefer to be alone and don't want to be involved in social practices that can be considered irrelevant in life, mostly living an introverted point of view that satisfies their self esteem, but all the more so, improves their capacity to think more clearly that leads to better decision making. Introverts are people who mainly live a solitary world of identifying themselves with the blissful existence of living inside their own state of mind, detached from the chaotic chasms of life's somewhat and often times, absurd profanities.

Introverts are mostly individuals that have come into terms with the reality of life and the truthfulness of social awareness and implicated adherence to social order. Going about one's daily tasks without the cumbersome intangible idiocy of some people that can be considered a liability in ones pursuit of a peaceful and stress free daily existence is more than what people with this kind of mental aptitude prefer. Mostly creative logical thinkers, introverts seldom “come out and play” despite being sociably coherent amongst their circle of acquaintances, work wise. They are the kind of individuals who find pleasure in being alone and prefer to be that way, spending most of their time dwelling on work.

Though stereotypically being designated as “geeks”, not all aspect of introversion can be addressed as such, most of the time. Regardless of such social branding, introverts are one of the most socially active people in the world, involving themselves in social media. Not to be given the wrong aspect of social description, introverts are more comfortable in dealing with society at a distance, not getting themselves attached to any aspect of ideologies or advocacies besides their own. Loneliness is a comfort zone to some but for others, it is a torment that can lead to mental anguish in the sense of borderline insanity.

The human specie is a social organism that tends to exist with the need for longing and attention. |It is a fact that has existed since our conception in this world. The need to be with someone seems to be the most insatiable instinctive drive on our psychological aspects as human beings that we give it more importance than all other social values. The natural comforting need to mingle among others is a natural instinct directly attributed to social propagation. The human need to eventually interact and divulge in society can not be disregarded as it is built in our genes. Despite all other social deviations founded on norms and morality, ideologies and social conditionings, we, as humans need other humans to satisfy our needs and urges, amongst ourselves.

The human touch is a very fascinating principle that involves the basic need to reach out and make physical contact to an individual. Regardless of any gender, age or diversified social inclinations, we long to be touched, in more ways than one. A good example would that be between a man and a woman, that involve the basic principle of touch. Despite any social implications of norms and practices, touching indicates longing or wanting as it is a motivational body language that yearns desire. A woman who gently puts her hand behind a man's back and gives it a gentle stroke is a clear sign of desire, despite age and social standings. It is viewed more as a sign of sexual want and is a natural instinct for both sexes.

Another aspect of social perspective in the light of this is the fear of solitude. Most people struggle for most of their lives try to fit into society and the need to gain respect from others. Delving into social acceptance for most of their lives, these individuals are the extroverts. Living a mostly hedonistic way of life that involve in the pursue of worldly pleasures. A good example of this would be that of former NBA superstar Dennis Rodman, who adheres to this kind of lifestyle. Oftentimes associated with opulence, hedonists are the real party animals.

The stark comparison can be considerably incremental to put conclusion between introverts and extroverts, as to put a generalization between the two. Leaving us to think for ourselves on who truly is the most lonely one considering all of these rational evaluations. Loneliness is one of the most frustrating sates of human mentality one could deal with. It is often times a factor that leads to depression that can imbalance the brain, leading to mental deterioration. The need to want and the want to need go together hand in hand in completing the human psyche as loneliness is a psychological disorder.

This reminds me of that old song from the group “America”, entitled, “Lonely People”, which goes with the line...”look at all the lonely people...thinking that life has passed them by”. A more apt word would that be of contentedness in your human existence. Asking for something that society would not give you for your own satisfaction is indeed a lonely thought even though you have come to a resolute acceptance that you are deemed to stay alone for the remaining of your entire life. It is a sad thought to ponder upon, indeed, Though happiness should never be this complicated from the start. It was us that has put the complications in life.